Getting Back in the Game by Cheryl B. Martin

Getting Back in the Game

What do you do if you suddenly find yourself single again after years or decades of being in a marital or romantic relationship? Where do you go to meet other eligible singles, a travel companion or movie escort? Online dating is a 2 billion dollar industry and Boomers are taking advantage of it by becoming the fastest-growing populations to join dating sites. Getting Back In The Game will guide you through the maze of online dating and calm any fears you may have about this growing phenomenon. 

Discover 

     * If online dating is for you 

     * The importance of “The Profile and tips on writing an effective one 

     * Some of the most popular dating sites for Boomers 

     * Dating advice and tips that will turn your date from one to many dates Mature adults need love, affection and camaraderie too. So, get back in the game, today!

Read an excerpt:

John was also tall. I remember the first time we met. We arranged to meet at a local Italian restaurant. He arrived 15 minutes early so he was already seated when I arrived. He came to the hostess station to meet me and I marveled at the presence of his physique in his tan-colored jacket and turtleneck sweater. As our evening started winding down, I stepped away from the table and returned to find that John was not at the table. ‘Had I been gone too long?’ I wondered. Was I gone so long that he thought that I had left the restaurant? Time can be fleeting but I didn’t have the sense that too much time had passed. 

After a moment or two John returned to the table with a guy who turned out to be the floor manager. As it turned out, John had arrived at the restaurant without his wallet and he lived one hour away. He was so embarrassed. Here he was on a first date at a very nice restaurant with no cash or credit cards. Of course he did not want to ask me, his date, to cover the expenses of our first date. What kind of first impression would that make? So during his absence from the table he was making arrangements to pay. Luckily, a checkbook was in the inside pocket of his jacket. 

This eventful evening lead to a second, third and fourth date. John was the consummate gentleman always opening doors, pulling out chairs, holding hands and catering to my desires. Did I mention that he loved to cook? His face would light up at the thought of grilling, baking or preparing a meal. 

We met in April and that May he was surprising me with a beautiful flowerbed and stone walkway, for Mother’s Day.

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About Cheryl B. Martin

Living in Midtown, USA Cheryl is a Baby Boomer that has been online dating for several years and has written this guide to help you navigate the world of online dating. She enjoys meeting new and interesting people and is currently planning a trip to Italy in 2017.

Review of 'Men and Manolos: Love and Relationships in the Heels of a Hopeless Romantic' by Alyssa Velazquez

Men and Manolos: Love and Relationships In The Heels of A Hopeless Romantic

109 pages
Genre: Women’s Biography, Memoir, Emotional Healing, Dating

No one walks into a relationship without the proper footing…

In a collection of original essays drawn from her open ended and inquisitive relationship column “Sex and the Chester,” Alyssa Velazquez explores a twenty-first century world dominated by proverbial singles, foreign and domestic affairs, and emotional recall relationships. In her intensely personal memoir of unscripted cute meets, dates that should have never happened, and affairs to forget Velazquez searches through her past for wisdom, perspective, and advice on the survival of a hopeless romantic. Following familiar scenarios through her never ending, often time predictable search for love in flats, sneakers, rain boots, and even a pair of Manolos her electric honesty makes us contemplate if maybe the key to the “mating ritual” is all in our shoes.

**My thoughts**

Alyssa Velazquez didn't intentionally set out to become a relationship column writer when she went to school, yet that is the hand that life dealt her. Strongly influenced by Carrie Bradshaw and Sex and the City, she has spent hours analyzing her own love life and societal expectations. In this book, she has collected some of her thoughts originally published in her column, hoping to inspire us to do the same with our own lives.

I realize that I am getting older, because her voice sounded so young to me. Of course, she is in her 20s; I am a decade beyond. As the book went on, I found maturity and growth in her words and her thoughts, which is to be expected over time. Some of her words were actually thought-provoking. Others I didn't dwell on as much. I think reading someone else's thoughts and essays on a topic such as love is going to be different for each reader. All of us have our own experiences that will help us relate differently to each of hers. I think that my favorite one, by far, was the one that discussed definition in relationships. Do we really need to define them? How does society define them? Doesn't that sometimes demolish a decent relationship, once you put a label on it?

The book isn't laced with sexual escapades and raunchy details to make you blush as she reveals her innermost thoughts. I know little of Sex and the City, but that is kind of what I was expecting to read on occasion. Instead, it feels a bit more realistic, like you're reading the words of a good friend. You will probably recognize yourself in a few of her essays.

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Author’s Biography:

Living in New Jersey, Alyssa Velazquez currently works as a barista  while daydreaming of mastering latte art. The product of liberal arts education, she has worked in D.C., Maryland, and Philadelphia as a conservation apprentice, production design intern, living history actor, and most recently a free-lance writer for The Women’s History Magazine and the Secretaries of Juliet Newsletter: Il Giornal de’Juilette.

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Twitter: @AlyssaManolo
Website: http://www.alyssavelazquez.net.tf